I’m a Bette, which means “I must be strong,” according to this quiz, which I happened upon after reading about how my friend Roxanna is a Jackie.

Seriously, it’s only two questions, so if you don’t take it, I’m going to assume you’re a fat Elvis and too lazy to bother.  But if you’re not a fat Elvis, leave a comment saying what you are — you might be a Jackie, or a Marilyn, or a Katherine, or … well, I don’t even know what other options there are! So find out already!

Here’s how you get along with me:

  • * Stand up for yourself… and me.
  • * Be confident, strong, and direct.
  • * Don’t gossip about me or betray my trust.
  • * Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side.
  • * Give me space to be alone.
  • * Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don’t flatter me.
  • * I often speak in an assertive way. Don’t automatically assume it’s a personal attack.
  • * When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that’s just the way I am.

What’s cool about being a Bette:

  • * being independent and self-reliant
  • * being able to take charge and meet challenges head on
  • * being courageous, straightforward, and honest
  • * getting all the enjoyment I can out of life
  • * supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me
  • * upholding just causes

But, here’s what’s hard about being me:

  • * overwhelming people with my bluntness; scaring them away when I don’t intend to
  • * being restless and impatient with others’ incompetence
  • * sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it
  • * never forgetting injuries or injustices
  • * putting too much pressure on myself
  • * getting high blood pressure when people don’t obey the rules or when things don’t go right